Date a girl who studies. Date a girl who spends her money on textbooks instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many reference books and multilingual dictionaries. Date a girl who has a list of practice paper she wants to finish writing, who has had glasses since she was five.
Find a girl who studies. You’ll know that she does because she will always have a pen stuck in her hair, two journals in her hand and heavy notebooks in her bag. She’s the one who lovingly looks at the blackboard in the classroom, the one who treats her textbooks like diamonds. She’ll cover them with brown plastic and never leave them in dirty places. Her study table will be the cleanest place in the house. You see the weird chick with immaculate handwriting and over-the-top detailed notes? That’s your student! She can never resist answering all the questions asked in the exam, even the optional ones.
Find her in coffee shops. She’s the girl solving trigonometry problems. Her nose is buried in a thick book, with her highlighter in one hand and her post-its in the other. She is the one who occasionally looks up from what she is reading, still lost in thought, trying to ponder the essence of what she has just read. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who study do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she enjoys trigonometry.
Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Newton. See if she got through the classification of carbon compounds. Understand that if she says she understood the Quantum Entanglement theory she’s just saying that to sound intelligent.
It’s easy to date a girl who studies. Give her textbooks for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Shakespeare, Tagore, and Cummings. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
Attend a lecture with her. Study with her. Be there for her to remind her that there is a world that exists beyond her readings. Find her in libraries, reading about the history of the world, trying to memorize important details of the Sudanese Civil War. Bring her post-its sometime, or surprise her with new pens. A girl who studies is also a girl who loves school supplies.
Fail her; because a girl who studies will be more than happy to help you with your studies. If she cares about you, she will find immense joy and satisfaction in sharing her notes and study techniques with you. She does not expect extravagant romantic dates. Her bliss lies in a debate about cloning and stem cell research, over coffee in candlelight.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who study understand that people, like characters, develop. She has studied the theories of human psychology with great attention and interest.
If you find a girl who studies, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a pen and studying cladistics, make her a cup of tea and help her. You may lose her to the world of historical wars, algebraic equations, gravitation laws and grammar rules for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. Date a girl who studies because for all her big ideas about big things, her true happiness lies in the small details– her textbooks, her practice papers, her post-its, her highlighters, the smell of coffee in the morning, your smile after a long day.
You will propose on a hot air balloon; or during a Math Club meeting. Or very casually next time she’s sick; over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Panchtantra and the scientific nomenclature for animals, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who studies because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who studies.
Or better yet, date a girl who teaches.
(Inspired from Rosemarie Urquico’s Date a Girl Who Reads)
(Thank you Debolina Sen for the featured image)